If someone shows kindness, caring, and a willingness to help others, they’re showing compassion. But how can we be more compassionate towards ourselves?
Most of us don’t lack compassion so much as we avoid it. Having compassion for oneself is really no different than having compassion for others. Compassion involves feeling moved by others’ suffering so that our heart responds to their pain. Having compassion also means that we offer understanding and kindness to others when they fail or make mistakes, rather than judging them harshly.
So how can we be more self compassionate; by being aware in the present moment when we’re struggling with feelings of stress, confusion, inadequacy and confusion. As the Dalai Lama says, self compassion is the first step toward compassion for others, we have to practice evoking good will toward ourselves by cultivating the same desire that all living beings have to live happily and free from suffering. Instead of just ignoring our pain, or trying to numb it with some sort of distraction or addiction, stop and tell yourself “this is really difficult right now”, how can I comfort and care for myself in this moment?
Having compassion for yourself means you honor and accept your humanness. Things will not always go the way you want them to. You will encounter frustrations, losses will occur, you will make mistakes, bump up against your limitations, fall short of your ideals. This is the human condition, a reality shared by all of us. The more you open your heart to this reality instead of constantly fighting against it, the more you will be able to feel compassion for yourself and all your fellow humans in the experience of life.
I believe we will learn to become profoundly compassionate toward all life and ourselves. We will learn this through wisdom, OR we will learn it through pain. Its not up to us where we are going – but how we get there, and when, is determined by the choices we make, every moment of every day. The choice is yours; I pray that you make them with compassion for yourself and all living beings.
So much compassion love & light